What is the relationship between intimacy and abuse in narcissistic dynamics?
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Intimacy can incubate and nurture abuse, as many abusers believe their conduct enhances relationships.
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What is the relationship between intimacy and abuse in narcissistic dynamics?
Intimacy can incubate and nurture abuse, as many abusers believe their conduct enhances relationships.
What is healthy narcissism in adolescents?
It helps them cope with anxieties and fears during critical life transitions.
What distinguishes the 'generally violent' type of aggressor?
They use violence both inside and outside the home, often tied to alcohol and have a history with the criminal justice system.
What triggers violent behavior in narcissists?
Frustration perceived as a threat to their False Self.
What is a common mistake victims make when dealing with stalkers?
Trying to appease or reason with the stalker, which can be seen as a weakness.
What can happen if you threaten a narcissist with their secrets?
They may disengage and lower their profile to avoid hurt and pain.
What behaviors in childhood can lead to narcissistic aggression in adulthood?
Exposure to abusive behaviors by parents, caregivers, teachers, or peers.
How can pampered adolescents develop a sense of entitlement?
By being extensions of their smothering parents and facing unrealistic expectations.
What should you do to prepare for potential stalking?
Alert local law enforcement, check domestic violence shelters, and consider self-defense tools.
What are some characteristics of a psychopath?
Devoid of empathy, impulsive, reckless, irresponsible, and unable to postpone gratification.
What is the Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex in narcissists?
It's the cycle where a narcissist distances himself due to fear of abandonment, leading to the very abandonment he fears.
What was Bathory's belief regarding bathing in blood?
She believed it could slow down the aging process.
What are common traits of bullies?
Insincere, haughty, unreliable, lack empathy, and exploit others.
What characterizes punitive-moralistic revenge?
Aims to restore justice and the victim's view of the world as orderly.
What behaviors might escalate in a stalking situation?
Loitering, making multiple phone calls, and sending threatening messages.
What common feeling do both serial and mass murderers experience?
A profound sense of alienation and frustration.
How does Donald Gaskins view his actions in relation to power?
He believes that by taking lives, he becomes God's equal and his own Master.
What do abusers often treat their loved ones as?
As mere objects or instruments of gratification.
How can you manipulate a narcissist effectively?
By playing on his grandiosity and paranoia, offering him Narcissistic Supply.
What is the recommended advice for coping with stalkers?
Avoid all contact and ignore them, while taking precautions.
What is pragmatic-restorative revenge focused on?
Restoring fortunes and reasserting rights against the violator.
What happens to the abuser's interest in their target after their needs are satisfied?
The abuser's warm interest abruptly dissipates, and they turn cold and distant.
What defense mechanisms do antisocial psychopaths commonly use?
Splitting, projection, and projective identification.
How do narcissists view pathological jealousy?
As proof of love, replacing mature bonding.
What does the text suggest about the nature of serial killers?
They are largely made by their culture and personal circumstances, not born.
What are the three ways people address grievances?
Punitive-moralistic, narcissistic, and pragmatic-restorative.
What forms can abuse take?
Physical, verbal, psychological, and sexual abuse, among others.
How should you teach your children to handle contact with a paranoid ex?
Instruct them to avoid the ex and report any contact immediately.
What do narcissists and psychopaths possess that allows them to manipulate others?
Cold empathy, which helps them discern others' vulnerabilities and needs.
What was Countess Erszebet Bathory accused of?
Slaughtering 612 young girls, although the true number may be lower.
What happens if someone disagrees with a narcissist?
They may become the target of the narcissist's aggression.
What are signs that you may be being stalked?
Tampering with your computer, unusual phone calls, and signs of breaking and entering.
What is one effective strategy for coping with vindictive narcissists?
Frightening them by exploiting their vulnerabilities.
How do psychopaths typically view social norms?
They fail to comply with social norms, leading to criminal acts and deceitfulness.
What is the effect of narcissistic behavior on intimate relationships?
It can lead to a belief that abusive conduct cements relationships.
How do societal factors influence serial killers according to the text?
Their environment, upbringing, and socialization inform their choice of weapons and victims.
What types of stalkers are mentioned?
Narcissistic, erotomanic, psychopathic, and paranoid-sadistic.
What motivates narcissists to attend therapy?
To alleviate intolerable pain, not to better interact with others.
What happens when a narcissist is offered continued Narcissistic Supply?
He becomes tamed and forgets his vindictiveness, claiming his 'property' and 'territory'.
What can cause healthy narcissism to become malignant?
Consistent mockery and bullying by peers and role models.
What is the abuser's reaction to perceived intimacy?
Abuse is a reaction aimed at fending off intimacy and decimating closeness.
How do narcissists typically respond to rejection?
They interpret it as aggression, leading to narcissistic injury and sustained rage.
What motivates narcissistic revenge?
Restoring self-imputed grandiosity after experiencing humiliation.
What is Narcissistic Supply?
It refers to adulation, admiration, attention, and other forms of validation that narcissists crave.
What is 'targeted intimacy' in the context of narcissistic behavior?
A manipulative form of intimacy that is exclusionary, ephemeral, and utilitarian.
What should you do if you notice unusual patterns or strange occurrences?
Take them seriously as they may indicate stalking behavior.
What is a common characteristic of all stalking behaviors?
Pent-up rage towards the victim.
What is the most dangerous type of psychopath mentioned?
The Paranoid-Sadistic, who thrives on threats, anxiety, and fear.
What is a common misconception about stalkers?
That they are eccentric and lonely weirdoes, rather than criminals.
How does a narcissist react to vague references or ominous allusions?
The narcissist generates fear and scenarios in response, becoming his own worst persecutor.
What is a common background for habitual offenders?
They are often raised in families or cultures where abuse is condoned.
How can you calm a narcissist during a rage attack?
By mirroring his rage back at him, which provokes his fears of abandonment.
What motivates bullies to act violently?
Feelings of inadequacy and a desire to compensate for it.
How do bullies typically behave socially?
They can be persuasive, manipulative, and charming, often appearing normal and likable.
How is stalking defined according to the 1997 Review Paper?
As the 'wilful, malicious, and repeated following or harassing of another person'.
What is a characteristic of the narcissist's personality according to Kernberg?
The narcissist has a disorganized personality.
What drives serial killers to commit their crimes according to the text?
Their feelings of not achieving the place in society to which they aspired.
Why is it dangerous to underestimate a paranoid stalker?
They can be extremely dangerous and may remain a threat for a long time.
What is the effect of mirroring a narcissist's actions?
It causes the narcissist to recoil and often leads him to try to make amends.
Why should you not disclose the presence of a concealed weapon to a narcissist?
It may confirm their paranoid delusions and upset the balance of power, leading to potential conflict.
What type of families do violent narcissists often come from?
Dysfunctional and abusive families.
Why is the narcissist unlikely to abandon his defense mechanisms?
Because he knows no different and they were useful in his infancy.
How do abusers often justify their behavior?
They blame their target for their withdrawal, citing nagging, insensitivity, or other perceived faults.
How do abusers perceive intimacy?
They often see intimacy as a license to abuse.
What do adolescents who feel deprived or discriminated against often resort to?
Narcissistic defenses to fend off hurt and achieve emotional gratification.
What societal conditions can exacerbate violent tendencies in narcissists?
Anomic states that offer little impulse control and regulation.
What does Lasch describe as the new narcissist's primary concern?
Finding meaning in life rather than inflicting certainties on others.
What is the aim of a stalker?
To 'educate' and punish the victim.
What precautions should be taken when dealing with a paranoid ex?
Put physical distance between yourself and the stalker, change contact information, and minimize contact with family and friends.
What is the relationship between narcissism and culture as discussed in the text?
Pathological narcissism is attributed to a society that stresses individualism and self-gratification.
What is a common outcome for victims of paranoid former spouses?
They may face violence, as these individuals can be harmful or even lethal.
What is a common predictor of future aggression in narcissists?
Past violence.
What personality disorder is most commonly associated with stalkers?
Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD).